The most infuriating part about wanting to "talk things out," and not via email or text message, is that most of the time, one person does not want to talk. So you have to wait for the conversation, and speak on their terms. You can never talk to them about it until they are ready. Being a person who operates under the issue of immediate resolve, this puts me in an uncomfortable situation. I must work on their terms.
Why can't people work on mine?
Having the conversation makes them uncomfortable. Waiting makes me uncomfortable.
It's just unfair.
But fairness is an illusion, and exists only within the confines of self-perception.